Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him."
Prayer List
1.Let me not miss or delay my appointed marital season.
2.Give me a discerning heart to choose the right life partner.
3.Transform my character into someone worth marrying, as I seek You.
You will marry WELL. You will marry GODLY. You will marry LONG. You will marry SOFT. Your marriage will be KINGDOM MINISTRY. Your marriage will be BEAUTIFUL AND PEACEFUL. Your marriage will bear much FRUIT. You will marry ONCE AND FOREVER.
These are my prayers and declarations for you, and I encourage you add your own adjectives and declare them into your marriage and home, from now. But none of this can be a reality if you do not marry RIGHT. Choosing the right life partner is the difference between spending life wishing it would all end soon, or having life and life more abundantly!
In Genesis 24, we read the story of Abraham’s oldest servant swearing to find a helper suitable, aka a wife, for Isaac, Abraham’s son of covenant. Abraham’s crucial instruction to find a wife from his father’s land was not because the Caananite daughters were not ‘good enough’ for his precious son. Rather, it was extremely important Isaac marry a woman with shared values AND who was under the same covenant as he was!
Marriage is a spiritually binding covenant that’s not so easily broken by signing papers, as the world believes. Once you’re in, you’re in and the yoke that now binds you with this person is one typically carried for life. This is why as children of Christ’s covenant, we choose from members of our own land and kingdom, who are of the same mind, values, covenant, and purpose.
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Here are FOUR Lessons We Draw from Genesis 24
THE DESIRE
Genesis 24: 1-4
If you don’t desire marriage, that’s not a crime, but don’t expect a lifelong relationship of commitment out of life. People without marital desire tend to have been graced to do life single or, on the contrary, may be wasting other people’s time with ‘situation-ships’ they know will never lead to lifelong commitment, because they don’t want that.
But for those who desire marriage, be sure not to despise that desire! Don’t let people convince you that desiring marriage is desperate. Adam was ALONE, not LONELY. He was physically singular, yet complete in God. It was God Himself that saw it was not good for Adam to be alone. God knows what’s good, believe me. So your desiring marriage is valid and will bring you to embrace settlement with intentionality.
As per the nature of mankind, when we want something, we tend to go after it. Our hearts long for it and we put actions in place to attain what we would rather not live life without. It could be a craving, friendship, the latest technology, or even, marriage.
Abraham desired a good wife for Isaac because a good helpmeet would make it easier to have a good marriage. He longed for it so much that he made another man swear and oath to make it happen!
We can learn that the desire to marry is just as blessed as desiring to enjoy singleness. The desire is what directs us to seek God’s face in this area and purpose in our hearts to be intentional about marrying right.
THE MISSION
Genesis 24: 8-14
If you desire something, and it is right before God, go after it! Go after that marital settlement with intentionality! Now, for men and women this intentionality will look different, but both sides have to make a decision in their hearts to be open, well-positioned, available, and intentional for arrangements for a beautiful Kingdom marriage to be proposed.
Abraham’s servant set out prepared to find this woman that he didn’t even know yet. He brought gifts. He prayed. He was willing to journey to the right place. He was open to receive and strategized where he would meet the woman Isaac could do life with.
He went to the well.
He chose a place where everyday daughters of the land would go. Somewhere he could meet a variety of women of marriageable age. In today’s day, the well may look a lot different: Church gatherings, social media, weddings, worship concerts, work, etc; but it is still a meeting place!
Let intentionality set you on a mission to go to the right well! The well you draw from will determine the kind of water you drink. Those who are desiring marriage and are choosing to be intentional about it are not at home hoping and wishing! Nope, they are praying and positioning.
If you’re looking for sons and daughters of your Kingdom, you can find them at the well.
THE REQUEST
Genesis 24: 14
The person that is silent, is one that’s not yet ready for change.
When the God of the entire universe saw the condition of the earth in the beginning, He SAID. And once He said it, it was so. Things changed.
As children of the Kingdom, prayer is a given. We shouldn’t hide our hearts from the One who made it. God instructs us to continue asking, seeking and knocking; making our requests known to Him. But are we requesting according to His will or according to our emotion?
The servant didn’t request for the most beautiful woman to come to the well. He prayed for evident kindness. For a woman that would consider, not only him, but the camels she’d be observant to see all around him. A selfless woman who would not mind letting down her own pitcher.
He prayed for character, not curves. Character is sustainable while vanity will fade. His request was realistic, not superficial. A woman that bore fruits of the Spirit, not of the flesh.
Whether male or female, don’t keep silent. God will do what you request, but be sure you are requesting for respectful and kind, not just big booty or full beard!
THE MEETING
Genesis 24: 16-21
Attitude. Posture. Beauty.
A quote I love from a Will Rogers goes, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.”
Rebekah’s posture of humility and genuine attitude was complimented by her external beauty that was noticeable even to the servant. Her first impression sealed the deal for the servant, that God had dealt mercifully with Abraham. He had found Isaac’s good thing.
The prayer was answered verbatim, signifying Isaac’s partner was one of character. But, her attitude while serving and looks signified that Isaac’s life partner was also one of beauty and charisma. She made a first impression that didn’t push the servant to look any further.
How do you present yourself at the well? Do you go out looking unkept or smelling like you need a pitcher of water, not to drink but to bathe? Do you bring people’s spirits down with a bad attitude or a complaining and nagging tongue? Do you help others willingly and joyfully, or do you look for opportunities to escape hard work?
How is your first impression either drawing people in or pushing them to look forward to the next person?
The impressions and interactions of the meeting, will determine the arrangement to marry, or none thereof.
Thank you so much for reading, Kings and Queens!
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